FROM RIGHTEOUS TO CALM by Suzie Daggett
I admit it - I can be so darned self righteous and morally superior. It is not pretty. I have watched my ego take off in a hypocritical manner, blasting my dearest friend, the one I love and care about most in the world. How did this happen? What form of reckless behavior was I exhibiting? I know better, yet I let my defense driven ego have its way with my mind. Yes! I am right and he is wrong, no doubt about it! My heart was not consulted and my soul was left to fend for itself. I was wrapped in a selfish tunnel of confusion and spite. The emotional verbal bombs that I threw in so many directions made me dizzy, disoriented and unhappy. My spiritual life went poof in an instant.
The egocentric nature of a reactive righteous stance is energetically toxic. It is an unconscious ingrained situation just waiting to be acknowledged, revealed and brought to life for change. I now recognize the signs of an oncoming egocentric attack and step out of the reactive chatter to create a calm demeanor.
If being right is a trigger for you, consider the following:
Infuse yourself with several deep aware breaths
When faced with your reactive demon, consciously breath through your need to be right as you recognize the trigger for what it is. Turn away from the person you might direct the attack to and observe your breath. With awareness, feel the air move from constriction to openness.
Take a walk
Walk away from the moment with the knowledge that a verbal strike back is not the answer. If you cannot get outside (which helps clear your mind), walk around the office or your home with mindful steps. This will help switch from the left brained righteous ego to the creative center of your brain where new ideas spring forth.
Watch for mirroring
When you are in an accusatory manner, you might just be talking to yourself, reflecting issues in which you need to be aware. If it is a money situation, perhaps it is not just your mate’s issue, but yours as well. Maybe even more yours than hers/his. Do you have the courage to face the limitations around the issue that is driving the accusation? Can you agree with yourself to dig deep and find the moment you got hooked into believing something that may not even be true today?
Get professional help
If you are boxed in, you may need to find a teacher, mentor, coach or psychologist who can help you understand and come to terms with deeper issues. Your ego will not like this approach, but your soul will be applauding your willingness to seek help as you change and grow.
Clear the air
When you are ready, have a neutral conversation with the one you wanted to make wrong. Perhaps you have found a collaborative solution in your walking, breathing, being time. If not, tenderly put the issue on the table and suggest: “I just do not know what to do about this issue – what ideas do you have?” Let the conversation flow rather than direct it.
Be kind to yourself
As you change behaviors and beliefs, take a moment to pat yourself on the back and be kind to yourself. Recognize that change of any kind is hard, uneven and sometimes dramatic. But, shifts in consciousness can and do happen. This is one of the reasons we are here in this earth plane – to understand what our ego wants (to be right) and what our soul needs (to grow towards love and compassion).
These tools have helped me to get back on track, to shift from a defensive mode back to my heart center creating a soul centered outcome. It is a continuing learning process, one that takes awareness, conscious energy and the willingness to allow for deeper soul growth. I applaud you for making the change towards love and calm living.
Originally published by The Master Shift
HEARING YOUR SOUL'S NEEDS by Suzie Daggett
Second by nano-second, our souls are giving us useful guidance. If we are dedicated to hearing our inner soul, long-term life changes can be quite dynamic. The discovery of what your soul needs brings delight, surprise and a sense of wonder. When you start actively listening to your soul, a different world emerges. You are under the guidance of something larger, something ‘more’ something, which feels compellingly mystical and cannot be explained. You will be stepping into an unusual zone of discovery. Will you find what you are looking for? Will you find time and energy to understand your life lessons? Will you have the trust, patience, awareness, courage, dedication, desire and truly active inner listening skills to move from your ego based life to a more soul centered awareness? Or, will your world be rocked and your belief system challenged beyond comfort?
Any or all of these scenarios can happen and they can overlap in the process. Soul discovery equals change yet it does not mean you will instantly become a fully enlightened soul. By questioning your soul needs, you will be lighter and more content as you become conscious of the variety of choices in your life.
To hear your soul needs:
Ask yes or no questions –This involves quietly and sincerely asking your soul what is needed and trusting the yes or no answer immediately heard. Here are a few questions to start with: shall I eat now or later; does my body need this food; shall I go this way or that; what is best for me to wear; shall I work with this company and much more. Be specific in your questioning, stop to listen and then with courage, follow the guidance received.
Be neutral – when following your soul guidance, stay neutral and open to all experiences – either exceptional or none at all. Once you expect something to happen, you pop into the world of ego wanting. If you get the soul yes to take a job and it turns into a disappointment rather than excitement, figure out what you learned (maybe you needed to know that field was not for you). If you wear red and it does not attract the mate you want, do not fret. You are practicing the art of listening to your soul.
Slow down – take frequent reflective pauses and deep belly breaths to be in the moment as you switch from your noisy, busy ego (who is used to be #1).
Turn off most outside influences and noise – it is hard to hear your soul when your external world is filled with noise. Keep the need for radio, TV or internet news and views a low priority. Find your way to being quiet whether it is meditation, exercise, creative outlets or prayer.
Be in nature – as best you can, take a walk around the block to smell the air, listen to the birds and be grateful for all that Mama Earth offers us. Look up at the sky and marvel at what is unseen. This can switch your brain from noise to quiet quickly.
Be grateful – when you desire to actively listen to the whispers of your soul and take actions from the guidance heard, follow up with a Thank You, Thank You, Thank You. Your guides, angels and the Universe at large love to know you are listening. They will send more and more guidance to you when you are gratefully receptive.
Originally published by The Master Shift