. . . soulful musings and mindful reflections on everyday living
November 14, 2014
Dear Clare & Posey,
Why is it that some people are so beautifully grateful even for simple things and others tight with a simple thank you? Can you help me understand?
Clare: The soul and the heart are the places from which gratitude emanates. Sadly, if someone is shut down emotionally, they have a difficult time even with an everyday gracious thank you. They may feel threatened by the ease in which you express gratitude and put up inner and outer barriers as they watch your happy composure.
When you live a life of gratitude, you become more positive, content, trustful and peaceful. The “no worries” vibe helps navigate moments when you could step into anger, sadness or greed. Instead, with conscious awareness of how you can change up a situation, you allow a thank you to form in your heart and a smile to appear on your face. It is disarming and hard to resist loving kindness when it is true and real.
Gratitude is like a soulful muscle – the more you use it, the stronger and more apparent it becomes for you. You start to feel your heart swell with the energy of love and bingo you are in gratitude. People might say “I want what you have!” And what you have are blessings in every moment, peace within yourself and kindness spreading around you. It is energy that is palpable for you and others.
To practice gratitude make a list of everything you are grateful for. Include your purring cat, a colorful leaf, a cozy bed, plus all your family and friends. When you fall asleep and wake up, remember all you are grateful for and say: thank you, thank you, thank you.
Posey: There is this saying: Would you rather be right or happy? Most people love to be right – and of course, that is up my alley as your ego. I thrive in being right. And I will sometimes sacrifice happiness and gratefulness to be right because it is so ingrained in our human psyche. I think most people are with me in this arena.
Clare seems to feel that gratitude is a deep spiritual movement. While I think it is nice to say thank you and be grateful, I do not see it as a way of life. If you choose that route, you might be run over by friends who want more and who will get more. They will have more toys, the newest gadget, the flashy car and you will not care if you are living this “no worries” lifestyle. You must care or you will end up with this perpetual smile on your face, and maybe that’s all.
There is room in your personality for both being right and living in gratitude, but remember, I am the one who will push you to be right, to stand your ground, to not allow anyone to push you around. If you can do that with a smile on your face, go ahead.