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Friends trying to convert me
August 11, 2015
Imagine two friends with very different points of view discussing life events – Clare comes from the heart and soul and Posey from the mind and ego. They love to answer questions from their unique perspective.
Dear Clare & Posey: Some friends want to convert me to their religion of which I am not interested. What can I say or do to keep our friendship? I am confused and need help.
Clare: speaking as your soul, it is important for you to know why they have a need to ‘convert’ you. This may be something that is part of their upbringing or church regimen. Your soul job is to be gentle yet firm as you let them know you appreciate what they are saying, but you are not interested. When someone tries to persuade you to do something you are not comfortable with, this is your chance to be spiritually strong. You might let them know that your spiritual beliefs are very personal and you are happy with yours. If they persist, it may be time to reevaluate the friendship. You can be a good kind person listening carefully when they are expressing views you do not believe, but you do not have a responsibility to respond. When you walk your talk, live in peace within your own skin, nothing anyone can say or do will affect you. In fact, you might be questioned as to why you are so calm and centered. We hope you find just the right balance to be true to your beliefs while keeping their friendship, if possible.
Posey: as your ego mind, I find this conversion attempt offensive. Your ‘friends’ are opportunistic in thinking they can persuade you to believe what they believe. What are they getting out of this? What will you get out of it? I suggest you put your big girl pants on and tell them flat out you are not interested in talking about religion, especially their brand. If they do not get the point, maybe try to convince them of your beliefs! Turn the table and see how they like it. Ha! I bet they will run the other way! But, all ego joking aside, I suggest you really take a look at what their friendship means to you. If they are only being your friend to get a new convert, that is not friendship, only manipulation. Get out and find new relevant friends today. You deserve much better. We are rooting for you on this one.